My motherhood journey - not what I expected!

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you healthy and blessed. A few weeks ago, a friend of mine texted me and asked for prayers. She and her husband found out a family member was pregnant. They were happy for her, but being infertile, their hearts were aching inside. An ache I knew and still know so well. Today, I want to share some thoughts with those who read my posts and are infertile. No matter where you are in your infertility journey: just finding out, going through it or have lived with it for years, the pain is always present.  I would first like to extend my heart and prayers to all of you who ache for a child. That longing lodges itself so deep inside and hurts each time we are reminded of it. It will lie dormant for a while, and resurface when you least expect it or need to be reminded of it. You need to know that even though that longing will never dissipate, it will get better - I promise you that! Trust me. Then, I wish to tell you that you are not alone. Even if al...

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you healthy and blessed. No posts went up this week - it was a much needed time away from work and I chose to spend most of my time with my husband and children. Posts will be back next week - and look out in May - I am starting a new project and I hope you can follow me along this new journey! Until my next post, be still in waiting. SM

Hello everyone, I pray this post finds you healthy and feeling blessed. A few years back, I was at a coffee shop with a friend. She was going through infertility issues and wanted to meet with me. During our conversation, she was surprised I was still bothered by my infertility even though we now had children - via adoption.  It then clicked in my mind that infertility never leaves you - it stays with you always. What does leave you is the constant sadness and feeling of being broken. But to think that my children have removed my infertility would be a false misconception. So, am I over my infertility? Honestly, not at all! Pregnancy announcements still bother me - not as much, but they still do. Hearing that someone got pregnant after their surgery will bother me. Seeing my in-laws get pregnant together will bother me.  However, it no longer bothers me as much or as long as it used to. Within a few minutes, I am overwhelming happy and start adding them to my "Expectant Mom" ...

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you healthy and blessed. I have a three, almost two and a one year old. We were very blessed at each adoption process and were matched with a birthmom fairly quickly. As such, we adopted three children within twenty-six months. Was it planned? Not at all! And before you ask, let me say that for each of them, we never hesitated and welcomed them in our home, without any reservations. Was it challenging? Obviously, it was! I would be lying if I said it was all rosy and perfect. When we adopted our oldest son, it was very rough with our daughter - who happened to be in the middle of teething - and each day, it was a mix of screaming matches and tantrums. But, it passed and we got some help because my mental health was taking a huge hit. When it came to adopting our youngest son, it was challenging. We had a two year old, an almost one year and a premiee. The challenge was not so much having another child, but the tragic reality that we were at the be...

Hello everyone,   I hope this post finds you healthy and blessed. We often hear about women experiencing postpartum depression, after giving birth. But what about adoptive mothers? Do they experience something similar? This is today’s topic. I will link down below the online blog post that inspired me together with the book that I read on this matter.   When we started our first adoption process, our social worker gave us a couple of books to read about adoption. The nerd in me was extremely excited to start reading them – which I did. One topic caught my attention: post-adoption depression or also known as the “Baby Blues”. I found it interesting that even if a woman does not experience childbirth, she can still undergo some sort of postpartum depression.   I would just like to preface that postpartum depression is serious and should not be dismissed. It is not just a “sad” moment in a mother’s life – it can become dangerous if the mother does not get pro...

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you healthy and blessed. Was planning on posting about another subject, but it was not flowing easily as I was drafting it and so, this is today's topic: unknown medical histories of your children via adoption. There is a huge misconception about adoption and health. Many think you only adopt children who are sick - terminally sick. While it is true that you can adopt a child that may be sick, the same can happen when conceiving naturally. In addition, when you start an adoption process, you are asked if you are open to children with a variety of medical conditions. To say that only sick children get adopted is a lie and this myth will be dispelled in a future post. When we started adopting, we were open to any child. This meant that race, gender and medical history were not a concern for us. Yes, we were a bit scared about having a child that had medical challenges, but we also knew that no matter the child, God would grant us the grace to ta...