Thoughts to my infertile readers

Hello everyone,

I hope this post finds you healthy and blessed.

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine texted me and asked for prayers. She and her husband found out a family member was pregnant. They were happy for her, but being infertile, their hearts were aching inside. An ache I knew and still know so well.

Today, I want to share some thoughts with those who read my posts and are infertile. No matter where you are in your infertility journey: just finding out, going through it or have lived with it for years, the pain is always present. 

I would first like to extend my heart and prayers to all of you who ache for a child. That longing lodges itself so deep inside and hurts each time we are reminded of it. It will lie dormant for a while, and resurface when you least expect it or need to be reminded of it. You need to know that even though that longing will never dissipate, it will get better - I promise you that! Trust me.

Then, I wish to tell you that you are not alone. Even if all your friends and family are not dealing with infertility and everyone is getting pregnant left and right... you are NOT alone. There are so many of us in the same boat - you just need to swim toward it to get the support you need. Don't go through it alone because you don't have to. Look for a community and get connected.

This next thought is extremely important because so many of us feel selfish for doing it. You are allowed to not attend baby showers or participate in them. You are allowed to not go to events where so many children will be present. You need to protect your heart and mental state. This is very important to hear and to know. If you feel up to it - go. But if you do not - don't do this to yourself. I felt guilty at first, but then realized that I would come home so broken and would be sad for days. You don't need to share why you are not attending - but know that the people who care about you and know you will completely understand.

Finally, I just want to send you all the hugs and prayers you need to get you through the dark days of infertility. You are strong. You are not broken. You are being challenged but the light will shine through all this darkness. You will smile again. You will laugh again. You will have that family you long for. You can get through this. You have God on your side - no, He has NOT forgotten you. You are not alone. You are not less of a woman or man. You are loved. You are prayed for. You are brave. You got this!

Until my next post, be still in waiting.

SM