My motherhood journey - not what I expected!

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you all well and safe. As always, remember to do your part to stop the spread of Covid-19. A few years back, I was diagnosed with general and acute anxiety. Basically, I am anxious all the time. However, if something occurs that is out of the realm of my daily anxieties, that is when the acute anxiety kicks-in. This acute anxiety has been causing me to have three episodes of cold sores, in the last month. Yes, I have been very stressed. I am not talking the usual stresses of a wife and mother of three children under the age of three who also happens to try to have a successful blog, finish her Masters in Theology and has recently decided to add a Certificate to her degree in Ethics and who is trying to write a novel about her experiences from wanting to be a lawyer to realizing that it was not what she was supposed to be while juggling being a doting and supportive wife and loving and nurturing mother and also call my mother and sister on a daily ...

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well and keeping safe and healthy. Remember to keep doing your part in helping to stop the spread of Covid-19. Most often, we do get some looks when we walk around with our kids. Even if you are color blind, you can tell that our children were adopted. Most often, people will smile, but others will gawk and make inappropriate comments like the title of this post. Therefore, this is the subject matter of this post. First off, I need to mention that it does not bother me AT ALL that my children do not look like me. In fact, I always pictured my family photos being with children that were of different races. Therefore, it never was something that bothered me. Secondly, if you are bothered by your kids not looking like you - then, maybe adoption is not the route you should be taking. Even if you make the decision to adopt a child that is the same race as you - that child will not look like you. So, if looks matter to you, you need to either make pea...

Hello everyone, A few days ago, my almost three year old looked at me. She was just staring at my face. I looked back and asked her:"What color are you?" She immediately said: "I'm brown." I smiled and asked her: "What color is mamae?" She immediately said: "Mamae is yellow." And there, our first conversation about race and adoption began. The conversation ended after that as she went about and continued coloring. But, it is the beginning of many conversations about both race and adoption. I will say that she will look at families that are all the same color and then look at ours. I am no fool as I can almost hear all the thoughts going through her toddler mind.  Am I scared? Not at all. I have already started to educate myself and have learned quite a lot. What stood out the most to me is that some parents choose to be color blind. That shocked me tremendously. It is very clear, just by looking at our children, that they were all adopted...e...

Hello everyone, Happy New Year! Yes, 2020 is finally over and done with. I doubt anyone will miss it.  I wish you all a wonderful and blessed new year full of health and laughter! Also, remember to still keep doing your part to stop the spread of Covid-19. When you adopt, one of the things you worry about is not getting matched with a birthmom. We all go through it and it is a difficult part of the process. I would not say that it is the most stressful part but it is not fun, at all! Waiting to be matched is a legitimate fear. It is this gray area that leaves us feeling inadequate and it messes with our confidence. The good thing is that we all get matched, and that we are not alone in feeling this way. Yes, you need to be patient. Unfortunately, that is the only thing I can tell you. It will happen, when the right birthmom finds you. There is nothing you can do to make yourself more appealing. In reality, birthmoms don’t look for the same thing. With our thr...

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you healthy and safe. Remember to do your part in stopping the spread of Covid-19. I was going to post something entirely different. But, if being a parent has taught me anything is that life with a toddler is anything but predictable. Last night was one of those instances... My toddler, who is almost three, decided that she was not going to "night night". Nope. In fact, she was acting very excited and too awake to even think of going to bed. I thought it was just being overtired, but I was wrong and right, at the same time. Her and I have a routine. About a half hour before her bedtime, I already warn her that it will soon be "night night". I then give her a hot cup of milk with Ovaltine and that is her indicator that she will soon be going "night night". We then go upstairs and the routine is as follows: 1) Brush our teeth 2) Turn on the sound machine 3) Pick the books we will be reading 4) Pray 5) Read the books 6)...