My motherhood journey - not what I expected!

Hello everyone, I apologize for having been so absent - we had, yet, another Covid scare and have been dealing with quite a few challenges. Thank goodness, the results were negative.   I hope and pray that when you read this post, you are safe and healthy. To those of you that are sick with Covid - hang in there. To those who have lost someone or more than one person to Covid - I am very sorry for your loss. To those on the frontlines - you are the heroes of the pandemic. This includes all hospital workers and those working relentlessly to help us with groceries and mailings and everything else we need to keep on living a somewhat "normal" life. Now - let's get into today's topic - adopted moms having a "Dad" experience. But what is this "Dad" experience I speak of? It's quite simple. You see, in most cases, the mom carries the baby and the dad just meets the baby at birth. Before that, the dad has no clue who this person growing inside their w...

Hello everyone, I apologize for not having posted on my regular day - I had an expected event occur and had to deal with it. I hope this post finds you all safe and healthy! Remember to wear your mask, wash your hands, social distance and get your flu shot. When you adopt, you get a lot of questions about not only the process but the child you will be adopting. As flattering as it is to have such interest in your child's story, we are not able to share any of it. It has been, I am sure, a source of frustration and curiosity for them, but we need to protect our children's privacy. It is hard to not say things, but when our children will be older, it will be their decision to share their story. Now, the other question I get is if we will tell them everything about their story. And the answer is quite simple: YES! As difficult as it will be, we have made a commitment to share the good, the bad and the very ugly. We cannot and will not omit parts of their stories because they will ...

Hello everyone, I hope this post finds you all safe and healthy. What a crazy year this is - I think we are ALL ready for it to be over! I was talking about adoption to a friend and I told her something that shocked her. When it came out of my mouth, she looked at me and said: "Oh, I never thought about that!" She looked quite puzzled and it dawned on me that unless you adopt, you don't know what you will need to accept or get past. So, that is the topic for today! I would say there are three things you need to accept before you adopt. There are more, but these three are crucial. If you or your spouse have not made your peace with them, you may not be ready to adopt. 1) Infertility Yes! You would be amazed at how many people adopt thinking they will get pregnant. They think this because they have heard, like I did - so many times - "Wait till you adopt, you will totally get pregnant!!" Then, you hear all these stories of people adopting and getting pregnant and ...

Hello everyone, I hope that when you read this post, you are safe and healthy. We are all a bit sick here - nothing but cold symptoms, but it has made our days and evenings pretty "snotty". But I am thankful that its just that. This will be my last update of the year regarding a fourth adoption. It took us a while to come to a final and unanimous answer. I must admit that I feared that my husband and I would differ - but no, we both came to the same conclusion.  Before I tell you, I just wanted to let you know how we came to our final conclusion. It started a few months ago. With our previous adoptions, the moment we hit the nine month mark (usually, they recommend that you wait nine months from the birth to start another adoption) we would start up all the paperwork. We would assemble new pictures and letters together with all the documents and appointments necessary for the home study (see my post on our home study if you wish to know more about that process).  This time - ...