Getting weird looks when I walk with my daughter
Hello everyone,
I hope that when you are reading this post, you are safe and healthy. I know it's not easy to stay in, but remember that we have to do this to keep that curve flat and stop the spread of this vicious virus, Covid-19.
Okay, so you know that all my kids are adopted and some are not Caucasian. I also know that I am not the only Caucasian woman who has a child that is not Caucasian, yet, the looks never fail... It does not matter whether the person giving them is Caucasian or not, the looks are there and they never fail to be noticed....
I am not sure why it even makes some uncomfortable when they see me with my daughter. I don't get it??? Is it because we are not the same skin color? Is it because the other person wanted to adopt and their spouse did not? Is it because they were adopted and had a bad experience? I wish they would say something, instead of giving me a weird look or give me a snarky look - yeah, my daughter is starting to notice them more.
Inside of me, I am punching them... but on the outside, I choose to smile or ignore. I do that because my daughter is watching my every move and she will learn from me. I need to show her that even if others don't show respect, it does not justify us doing the same.
Next time you see a parent with a child that is not of the same skin color - be mindful. You don't know their story and that child will then feel as though them being adopted was a mistake or because they pitied them. Be brave and ask a question: what made you choose adoption? does it bother you that she is not the same skin color? ask anything...!!! It is better than not saying anything and just giving me a dirty look.
You don't know my story. You don't know how long I waited to be a Mom. You have no idea of my pain and suffering. Be mindful and be kind.
Remember to wash your hands, not touch your face and stay home as much as possible!! Stop the spread of Covid-19.
SM
I hope that when you are reading this post, you are safe and healthy. I know it's not easy to stay in, but remember that we have to do this to keep that curve flat and stop the spread of this vicious virus, Covid-19.
Okay, so you know that all my kids are adopted and some are not Caucasian. I also know that I am not the only Caucasian woman who has a child that is not Caucasian, yet, the looks never fail... It does not matter whether the person giving them is Caucasian or not, the looks are there and they never fail to be noticed....
I am not sure why it even makes some uncomfortable when they see me with my daughter. I don't get it??? Is it because we are not the same skin color? Is it because the other person wanted to adopt and their spouse did not? Is it because they were adopted and had a bad experience? I wish they would say something, instead of giving me a weird look or give me a snarky look - yeah, my daughter is starting to notice them more.
Inside of me, I am punching them... but on the outside, I choose to smile or ignore. I do that because my daughter is watching my every move and she will learn from me. I need to show her that even if others don't show respect, it does not justify us doing the same.
Next time you see a parent with a child that is not of the same skin color - be mindful. You don't know their story and that child will then feel as though them being adopted was a mistake or because they pitied them. Be brave and ask a question: what made you choose adoption? does it bother you that she is not the same skin color? ask anything...!!! It is better than not saying anything and just giving me a dirty look.
You don't know my story. You don't know how long I waited to be a Mom. You have no idea of my pain and suffering. Be mindful and be kind.
Remember to wash your hands, not touch your face and stay home as much as possible!! Stop the spread of Covid-19.
SM
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