My motherhood journey - not what I expected!

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. Remember to wash your hands ( for 20 seconds or more) and if you are not feeling well, please stay home and take care of you. Let's stop this virus from spreading...but let's not let it rule our lives. Do you want to be a parent? Or, do you want a baby??? Feels like it is the same question, but trust me, it is not! It is even more different when you are unable to conceive or have been told that you have infertility. For one, when you wish to be a parent, you are not focused on the baby, but rather on what the baby will make you, which is a parent. On the other hand, when you want a baby, your main focus is on the BABY and nothing else, and that is when conceiving and potential infertility can take a toll on you, your spouse, your marriage and your life! These two questions were brought up to me during a long car ride to Canada. My husband had received this lecture CD and he wanted me to listen to it, but I was ad...

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. Remember to wash your hands thoroughly and stay home if you are not feeling well. It has been a while since my last post and let's just say that things changed dramatically, in a good way, since last week. Clearly, from the title, you can already guess that we have adopted again!!! It was another SURPRISE baby and this time, within approximately three hours, we had adopted our son. We are still on that high but also a little nervous about what is to come ahead with three children under the ages of two and a half. Since his adoption, which will only be finalized in a couple of months, it has been a little nerve wracking since he is currently in the NICU. He was born prematurely and so, it will be a few weeks before we can even think of bringing him home. In some way, it's helping us to figure out what we still need for him and how to organize ourselves. What we need is pretty minor as we have a lot from Thomas...still, we ...

Hello everyone, I hope you are all having a great day. If your day started off not so good, I hope it gets better. In this time of coronavirus becoming rampant, remember to wash your hands and avoid touching your face, as much as possible! If you are feeling unwell, don't leave the house, rest and take care of yourself. Oh, you have such a good heart to have adopted...😒 Oh, how lucky are they to have been taken in by you...😒 Oh, they are adopted (they say in a whisper - as if it was a bad thing)😳 Oh, you have a boy and a girl - how great! Now, you have one of each...😕 Oh, so happy you are not one of those large Catholic families....😩 Oh, you have such a big heart to have adopted such a child ( they were referring to our daughter who is African-American)😒 I read these comments and cannot help but think how many have the wrong idea about why people adopt. And so, today, I have chosen to write about why we chose adoption to grow our family. When our infertility was ...

Hello everyone, I hope you are all having a good day. Mine is so-so, but for those who are having a bad day, I do hope and pray that it gets better. After every storm, there is sunshine. Today, I wanted to address something that most people who adopt, after infertility, experience. We are often told that we are now "fixed" once we start adopting children. The first time someone told me that, I was left dumbfounded and had no clue what to say. To this day, I can honestly say that I am still not sure how to answer that one. But, I can say this: adoption DID NOT cure my infertility. We still cannot have biological children and adoption is clearly not how we can. I wonder if by "fixed", they mean that we no longer feel like we can't have children...or maybe they mean that we have our "fix" of having children. No matter what they mean, it's just the wrong thing to tell someone who adopts. And it's even less of a thing to say when they chose ...