Waiting for that call about a match with a birthmom!
Hello everyone,
I hope you are all doing excellent on this lovely Monday - if the weather is crappy where you are, remember to smile...it helps! ...sometimes
Just wanted to come by and write about something that is not often addressed when you start an adoption process. It's one of the stressful parts of the journey and can be difficult to get through.
We have been fairly lucky with our adoptions - one we waited about a month before we got the call and with our second one, we waited about five months. But we know of couples that waited a year or more. And the delay in getting a call is very random from couple to couple. In the end, we never can tell what attracts a birthparent to you. I will address that n a future post.
And whether the delay is short or long, it is still stressful to wait for that call. And you may think that it will only happen during business hours, but NOPE...you can get a call on a weekend, early in the morning or very late at night. And, it will happen when you LEAST expect it.
In a world where everything is immediate, it can be hard to have to wait. However, you must remember that it does take time and it will happen - you will get that call!!
In the meantime, while you wait, there are a few things you can do:
1) start planning where you want your nursery or room depending on the age you wish to adopt
2) start making a baby or child registry - clothes, furniture, books
3) read up on parenting an adopted child
4) attend adoption classes - they do help!!
5) be excited
6) on days where it gets hard, live your emotions but don't let them overwhelm you
7) enjoy some time alone, because once you get that call...it's GO time!!
8) ask around for ideas on decorating the nursery or bedroom
9) DO NOT WAIT BY THE PHONE - continue to life your life, that will be a good distraction
10) PRAY - that will help you get through the more difficult days
It's also important to not feel rejected when you see that other couples have been matched. It can feel like you were not liked, but think of it as: it was just not the baby or child that was good for you.
Are you currently waiting for that call? How are you feeling? Please share.
Until my next post, take care.
SM
I hope you are all doing excellent on this lovely Monday - if the weather is crappy where you are, remember to smile...it helps! ...sometimes
Just wanted to come by and write about something that is not often addressed when you start an adoption process. It's one of the stressful parts of the journey and can be difficult to get through.
We have been fairly lucky with our adoptions - one we waited about a month before we got the call and with our second one, we waited about five months. But we know of couples that waited a year or more. And the delay in getting a call is very random from couple to couple. In the end, we never can tell what attracts a birthparent to you. I will address that n a future post.
And whether the delay is short or long, it is still stressful to wait for that call. And you may think that it will only happen during business hours, but NOPE...you can get a call on a weekend, early in the morning or very late at night. And, it will happen when you LEAST expect it.
In a world where everything is immediate, it can be hard to have to wait. However, you must remember that it does take time and it will happen - you will get that call!!
In the meantime, while you wait, there are a few things you can do:
1) start planning where you want your nursery or room depending on the age you wish to adopt
2) start making a baby or child registry - clothes, furniture, books
3) read up on parenting an adopted child
4) attend adoption classes - they do help!!
5) be excited
6) on days where it gets hard, live your emotions but don't let them overwhelm you
7) enjoy some time alone, because once you get that call...it's GO time!!
8) ask around for ideas on decorating the nursery or bedroom
9) DO NOT WAIT BY THE PHONE - continue to life your life, that will be a good distraction
10) PRAY - that will help you get through the more difficult days
It's also important to not feel rejected when you see that other couples have been matched. It can feel like you were not liked, but think of it as: it was just not the baby or child that was good for you.
Are you currently waiting for that call? How are you feeling? Please share.
Until my next post, take care.
SM
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