Should we Adopt?
Hello everyone,
The week is halfway done and it feels like it will be a very long one...but hey, eventually, the weekend has to arrive!
Something that people need to address and probably don't until they have started the process is: should they adopt? It seems like a simple answer, but it is a bit more complex than that.
Just like anything else, many just jump into adoption without even having a real discussion with themselves and their spouses or partner. And then, they start the process and it either falls apart or they fall apart.
I have met some couples during our adoption classes that ended up being alone in the process because their spouse or partner was not sure anymore they wanted to adopt. I wondered if they had been honest with themselves and each other before they started this journey.
Adopting a child is not like adopting a puppy or cat. You are deciding to take care and love a stranger and promise to someone you may never see again, that you will do everything in your power to give the best that you have to nurture and love this child. It's a big deal and should not be taken lightly. It's almost like getting married...so, please have an honest discussion with yourself and your partner and talk about your fears, hopes, budget, expectations, what you want, what you don't want and more importantly, why have you chosen to adopt.
Yes, people will surprise you. Often, people adopt because they hope that it will mend the brokenness in their marriage. They adopt because they know their spouse or partner wants a baby. They adopt because it's taking too long to conceive naturally. They adopt because they feel it's what their family wants - for them to have children.
Be honest with yourself and your spouse and partner. Yes, I know that I am repeating this many times, but it bears repeating because people are not honest when wanting to start an adoption process.
Questions and issues need to be addressed. Here are your top five questions:
1) Why do I want to adopt?
2) What kind of child am I open to?
3) How will our families react and how will we handle their reactions?
4) Are we ready to open up our whole life, past and present, to a stranger?
5) What kind of adoption are we open to and why?
These are just a starter, but they are a good start to this long, tedious but also exciting process.
Are you in the process of adopting? Are you scared? Nervous? Excited? Supported? Please share and let's start the conversation.
Have a blessed day,
SM
The week is halfway done and it feels like it will be a very long one...but hey, eventually, the weekend has to arrive!
Something that people need to address and probably don't until they have started the process is: should they adopt? It seems like a simple answer, but it is a bit more complex than that.
Just like anything else, many just jump into adoption without even having a real discussion with themselves and their spouses or partner. And then, they start the process and it either falls apart or they fall apart.
I have met some couples during our adoption classes that ended up being alone in the process because their spouse or partner was not sure anymore they wanted to adopt. I wondered if they had been honest with themselves and each other before they started this journey.
Adopting a child is not like adopting a puppy or cat. You are deciding to take care and love a stranger and promise to someone you may never see again, that you will do everything in your power to give the best that you have to nurture and love this child. It's a big deal and should not be taken lightly. It's almost like getting married...so, please have an honest discussion with yourself and your partner and talk about your fears, hopes, budget, expectations, what you want, what you don't want and more importantly, why have you chosen to adopt.
Yes, people will surprise you. Often, people adopt because they hope that it will mend the brokenness in their marriage. They adopt because they know their spouse or partner wants a baby. They adopt because it's taking too long to conceive naturally. They adopt because they feel it's what their family wants - for them to have children.
Be honest with yourself and your spouse and partner. Yes, I know that I am repeating this many times, but it bears repeating because people are not honest when wanting to start an adoption process.
Questions and issues need to be addressed. Here are your top five questions:
1) Why do I want to adopt?
2) What kind of child am I open to?
3) How will our families react and how will we handle their reactions?
4) Are we ready to open up our whole life, past and present, to a stranger?
5) What kind of adoption are we open to and why?
These are just a starter, but they are a good start to this long, tedious but also exciting process.
Are you in the process of adopting? Are you scared? Nervous? Excited? Supported? Please share and let's start the conversation.
Have a blessed day,
SM
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