Sick Days - Moms Never Have Any

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Hello everyone,

I hope that when you read this post, you are keeping safe and healthy.

My sister and her husband had to move far from home when he started at his new job. They were a five hour drive away and had no family or friends near them. They had a 9 month old and their daughter was on the way. It would be challenging but it would be okay...right?

I learned a lot from my sister during that time. It was amazing to see how she handled being far from everyone and then having two small children under the age of two. It must have been so difficult, especially during the harsh winter months.

We would always keep in touch via Skype or Messenger. It made me feel better when I saw that she was doing well. However, when she was sick, I felt so powerless. I just kept thinking: how awful that she has those two little kids to take care of while she is so sick. How is she handling it? 

Then, years later, it happened to me. I was sick with the kids and I had no one to help me out. My husband had to go to work and I had to buckle up and just keep going. I had to do that several times and was amazed at how I pulled it off each time. Then again, you do it because you have no other choice.

I learned that I was stronger than I thought. My time was managed differently and accepting that things would not be perfect had to be okay with me. Naps were where I could get some rest and the rest of the time, I would let them play and just pray that they would behave. And just like that, I survived being sick while taking care of the kids. I survived many sick days with them...

When you are a stay-at-home mom, you don't have the privilege of having sick days. You get some only if you have help. If you don't have help, you need to step-up and just plow through that day - no matter what. You do it because you have no choice because little children just don't understand that you are sick. To them, it's a regular day - for you, the mom, it can be a nightmare.

Here are some tips to get through those days:
1) everyone stays in pajamas
2) eating healthy can wait until tomorrow
3) nap time means nap time for you as well
4) a little screen time can be a great help - just don't overdo it
5) remember to keep hydrated

These are what work for me, and there may be some other ways help you get through those days. If you have other tips, please share them so we can build our community.

So, if you know a mom who is away from family and friends, see if she may need a breather - a couple of hours can allow her to take a shower and even have a decent breakfast. Trust me, she will appreciate it.

Until my next post, keep safe and healthy!
SM

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