Adoption Series - Blog Post #8
Hello everyone,
I hope your day is going well. Mine started with some good news from my doctor, but not so good news from our plumber...but, the good thing is that it can be taken care of. If your day is not going well, then, I am hoping that it will get better. For those who are still in that rough patch, I am keeping you in prayer and thoughts.
Today, let's examine this question: "Will the child go back to his\her parents?"
There are so many layers to this question that I am not sure where to begin. So, I have chosen to start with the whole "parent" thing.
I can understand that it can be hard to see adoptive parents as parents. But, guess what? We are parents. Yes, even though we adopted, WE ARE PARENTS. We may have become parents a different way, but adoption, in no way, erases that we are the parents.
In an adoption, you have the adoptive parents and the birthparents. As such, the question should instead be: Will the child go back to his\her birthparent?
Now that we have clarified the whole "parent" issue, let's now move on to the child going back...
Depending of the state you have adopted from, your adoption can be final the day that the birth consent is signed. In the state we live, once the birth consents are signed, the birthparents cannot come back and bring the baby home. If they wish to go against the birth consent, they will need to go to court and prove that they are fit to parent.
In other states, there is a thirty day window from the moment the birth consent is signed. Even if it's day thirty, the birthparents are allowed to come and bring the baby with them.
I will be honest that I am happy that things are the way they are in our state. I have known people who live in other states and they have had the bad experience of having to give the baby back to the birthparents - I can only imagine the pain they felt.
So, can the child go back to their birthparents? The answer is really yes and no because it depends the state that you live in.
As for international adoptions, I am not sure how those work, but I feel that it's the same thing. Unless, they are from an orphanage.
So, that's it for this question. Let's do a quick recap: 1) adoptive parents are parents 2) depending on the state you adopt from, the baby may or not go back to their birthparents.
Until we tackle the next question, I wish you all a great day, afternoon or evening, depending on where you are reading this from...btw, where are you reading me from? Let's see where we all are!!
SM
I hope your day is going well. Mine started with some good news from my doctor, but not so good news from our plumber...but, the good thing is that it can be taken care of. If your day is not going well, then, I am hoping that it will get better. For those who are still in that rough patch, I am keeping you in prayer and thoughts.
Today, let's examine this question: "Will the child go back to his\her parents?"
There are so many layers to this question that I am not sure where to begin. So, I have chosen to start with the whole "parent" thing.
I can understand that it can be hard to see adoptive parents as parents. But, guess what? We are parents. Yes, even though we adopted, WE ARE PARENTS. We may have become parents a different way, but adoption, in no way, erases that we are the parents.
In an adoption, you have the adoptive parents and the birthparents. As such, the question should instead be: Will the child go back to his\her birthparent?
Now that we have clarified the whole "parent" issue, let's now move on to the child going back...
Depending of the state you have adopted from, your adoption can be final the day that the birth consent is signed. In the state we live, once the birth consents are signed, the birthparents cannot come back and bring the baby home. If they wish to go against the birth consent, they will need to go to court and prove that they are fit to parent.
In other states, there is a thirty day window from the moment the birth consent is signed. Even if it's day thirty, the birthparents are allowed to come and bring the baby with them.
I will be honest that I am happy that things are the way they are in our state. I have known people who live in other states and they have had the bad experience of having to give the baby back to the birthparents - I can only imagine the pain they felt.
So, can the child go back to their birthparents? The answer is really yes and no because it depends the state that you live in.
As for international adoptions, I am not sure how those work, but I feel that it's the same thing. Unless, they are from an orphanage.
So, that's it for this question. Let's do a quick recap: 1) adoptive parents are parents 2) depending on the state you adopt from, the baby may or not go back to their birthparents.
Until we tackle the next question, I wish you all a great day, afternoon or evening, depending on where you are reading this from...btw, where are you reading me from? Let's see where we all are!!
SM
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