Proud to Look Older Because I Have Children!

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Hello everyone,

I hope that when you read this post, you are keeping safe and healthy. Remember to wash your face, not touch your face and wear your masks.

Today, I had a dentist appointment. I was finally putting in my crowns - I had a few mishaps because of some sensitivity which led to a root canal. Anyways, I was just happy to get it done, because I had been in pain for a while - a few months, actually.

I have a wonderful and very pleasant dental assistant who is taking my mind off things. She is chatting away and I was so relaxed. We started to talk about life and all - then, she tells me she and her husband did not want children. I told her that if they ever changed their mind, I knew someone who could help them with an adoption. She told me she was forty-five and I stopped her - Woah! You look amazing and are only one year older than me and you look younger!! You look amazing!!!

She laughed and said: Of course I look younger than you...you have children that you worry about all the time... ugh!!!!!

I was thrown off guard and laughed it off. Only later, while I was picking up our weekly groceries, did it cross my mind. I had my daughter in the car and could hear her humming and seeing her legs swinging through the rearview mirror. As I smiled at her, I said: "I am happy if I look old because of her and I am happy that I am blessed enough to have children to worry about." I was then angry at what she said to me - how dare she tell me that... as if children were some awful thing to have.

I find it sad that she thought that way. I wonder if she ever does envision a life with children. Yes, it was much easier when we did not have children. But I also remember us being sad when we traveled because we kept talking about what awesome things we would do with kids if we had any. On Facebook, I would usually post a mini-video of our trips. It is quicker than just putting up all these pictures - this way, it is short and sweet and gives a glimpse into our trip. The last one I made made me cry so much. It made me sad to think that it was, once again, just us with no kids.

Now, we have these awesome pictures with our kids. We are all laughing and we even kept the more candid one - because they represent us and our daily craziness. True, some days are more challenging than others but still, this is why we got married - to build something together and then bring in children. We were unable to do it naturally and through adoption, we were blessed with three wonderful children who have given us so much!

Yes, my hair got a little more gray, I have more lines around my eyes and my dark circles under my eyes are, at times, there every day of the week... still, I would not change it for the world!!! I am proud to have those because they are because of my children whom I love more than anything.

Has someone said something to you about having kids that offended you? If so, please share and let's build our community by standing together and being happy and blessed to have these children.

Until my next post, please keep safe and healthy!
SM

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