Why pregnancy announcements still bother me a bit...
Hello everyone,
I hope you are all having a great day. If there are any Super Bowl fans out there, I am sure you are either happy or upset about who won. Personally, I am a soccer fan, but I do know what it is like to hope and pray that your team wins.
In the event that your day is not going so well, I hope it gets better - Mondays are never easy, much less when they start off badly.
I was going to continue on my Adoption Series, but I had something that I wanted to share and get out of my heart. Once it will be done, I can move on from it and look forward.
Quite often, people think that because you adopt, you no longer suffer with your infertility. It seems as if because you now have children, your infertility has somehow magically disappeared. Wish that was the case, but things don't work that way.
What I need people to understand is that because we adopt, our infertility does not go away. My infertility is still very much present. It reminds me of its presence each month when my period arrives, when I know that we had intercourse during my fertile window. It's something that will never leave me, until I hit menopause.
Yesterday, we received the news that there will be another baby in the family! How exciting to be an aunt again. Yet, it dawned on me that when we get matched, people's reactions will inevitably far more different.
A pregnancy announcement is received with joy and love. A match announcement is received with uncertainty because you have no idea how it will end. You may or may not have the baby.
A pregnancy announcement means that pictures of the birth will be shown multiple times. We only get to meet our children a couple of days later and we have missed out on those first days of life.
A pregnancy announcement implies a baby shower. We don't have one because we don't know what will happen.
So many firsts come with a pregnancy announcement that don't come with a "being matched" announcement.
It stings a bit. But in the end, I knew that this would be my path. I do let myself grieve each time.
Today, I am happy to get to meet another niece of nephew. I am happy that our next baby will be close in age to this little one. I am happy to be the cool aunt again! - at least, I think I am...
If you are in my situation, know that you are not alone. It's okay to feel sad. Don't repress the emotions. Live them and then move on, when you are ready.
Have a blessed day,
SM
I hope you are all having a great day. If there are any Super Bowl fans out there, I am sure you are either happy or upset about who won. Personally, I am a soccer fan, but I do know what it is like to hope and pray that your team wins.
In the event that your day is not going so well, I hope it gets better - Mondays are never easy, much less when they start off badly.
I was going to continue on my Adoption Series, but I had something that I wanted to share and get out of my heart. Once it will be done, I can move on from it and look forward.
Quite often, people think that because you adopt, you no longer suffer with your infertility. It seems as if because you now have children, your infertility has somehow magically disappeared. Wish that was the case, but things don't work that way.
What I need people to understand is that because we adopt, our infertility does not go away. My infertility is still very much present. It reminds me of its presence each month when my period arrives, when I know that we had intercourse during my fertile window. It's something that will never leave me, until I hit menopause.
Yesterday, we received the news that there will be another baby in the family! How exciting to be an aunt again. Yet, it dawned on me that when we get matched, people's reactions will inevitably far more different.
A pregnancy announcement is received with joy and love. A match announcement is received with uncertainty because you have no idea how it will end. You may or may not have the baby.
A pregnancy announcement means that pictures of the birth will be shown multiple times. We only get to meet our children a couple of days later and we have missed out on those first days of life.
A pregnancy announcement implies a baby shower. We don't have one because we don't know what will happen.
So many firsts come with a pregnancy announcement that don't come with a "being matched" announcement.
It stings a bit. But in the end, I knew that this would be my path. I do let myself grieve each time.
Today, I am happy to get to meet another niece of nephew. I am happy that our next baby will be close in age to this little one. I am happy to be the cool aunt again! - at least, I think I am...
If you are in my situation, know that you are not alone. It's okay to feel sad. Don't repress the emotions. Live them and then move on, when you are ready.
Have a blessed day,
SM
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