Do we want to adopt again? - UPDATE

 Hello everyone,

I hope this post finds you safe and healthy. 

A few weeks back, I wrote about out thoughts on adopting again. I wanted to touch base on that and give you an honest update.

No, we have not made a final decision on whether or not we are going ahead with another adoption. But, we have started to think about what our life would be if we were to adopt again. It is just talking with no decision and it feels nice to know that we are both on the same page.

As for me, I had a change of heart and wanted to consider it because all three kids are sleeping through the night. Yes, sometimes, we have issues putting out toddler down, and there are a few nights where one of them cries - nightmare, lost pacifier or a dirty diaper. Regardless, all three are sleeping through the night and we can now sleep much better.

However, I have started up my Masters again and have already lined up my classes for the next semester. I have also started working on launching a new blog - no worries, you will know when I launch it. I have also started to get into a routine with the three kids. It is all lining up and things are good.

So...what are we thinking about adopting again:

1) we need to wait until January 2021 to be active on the list - that is a long time to wait

2) our age - because we are not getting younger

3) bringing in another child when the others are still all so young

4) will our nanny be willing to deal with four children under the age of four

5) what if the new baby is special needs (which we are open to) and what will that entail?

There are other talking points, but these are the top topics that our conversations are centered on. And the fact that we are talking is a good thing. We are not assuming what the other is thinking or wanting. We are addressing it and making it a conversation. 

For now, we can't do much because we do need to wait, at least, nine months before starting anything. All we can do is keep praying about it and having discussions. It helps to know that no matter what, my spouse is okay with the having three children. Some spouses feel the pressure of their spouses wanting more kids when they feel overwhelmed. 

I will keep updating you - every few months - and we will see what the final result will be. Either way we go, we are already so blessed and fortunate to have three healthy kids. We are the lucky ones.

Are you thinking of adopting or trying for another baby? If so, please share your thoughts. Let's build our community.

Until my next post, keep safe and healthy!

SM