How to tackle the hard questions...
Hello everyone,
Yes, there are hard questions that come when you adopt a child. And often, the conversation goes well...but some issues will be harder to tackle.
We already know that we will have some difficult conversations. It sort of helps that our kids have similar stories and so, we will have practiced with our oldest and then be more capable with the youngest.
I am not sure how to best do this, but I do know that keeping the lines of communication open and also letting them know that you are there for them. Honesty is also a great asset and it is okay to say: I don't know. It's better to say that than to make up a story so that they are not hurt.
We cannot and should not shelter them. It is best if they hear it from you than from a stranger. Also, your social worker is there for you and they can help you with any tricky situations that may arise.
Read about it and ask for resources so that you can have somewhat of an idea how to even start the conversation.
Listening to your kid, being patient and letting them know that you are there for them will be the best way to handle whatever their story. It won't be easy but it will be a learning curve for all.
We will be tackling in the next couple of years...am I scared? of course! But I am doing all I can to be prepared and I will face it with stride and patience...because those kids need me to let them know that it will be okay!
SM
Yes, there are hard questions that come when you adopt a child. And often, the conversation goes well...but some issues will be harder to tackle.
We already know that we will have some difficult conversations. It sort of helps that our kids have similar stories and so, we will have practiced with our oldest and then be more capable with the youngest.
I am not sure how to best do this, but I do know that keeping the lines of communication open and also letting them know that you are there for them. Honesty is also a great asset and it is okay to say: I don't know. It's better to say that than to make up a story so that they are not hurt.
We cannot and should not shelter them. It is best if they hear it from you than from a stranger. Also, your social worker is there for you and they can help you with any tricky situations that may arise.
Read about it and ask for resources so that you can have somewhat of an idea how to even start the conversation.
Listening to your kid, being patient and letting them know that you are there for them will be the best way to handle whatever their story. It won't be easy but it will be a learning curve for all.
We will be tackling in the next couple of years...am I scared? of course! But I am doing all I can to be prepared and I will face it with stride and patience...because those kids need me to let them know that it will be okay!
SM
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