My motherhood journey - not what I expected!

Hello everyone, So, I had lunch with a very sweet friend this week who is having infertility issues. We approached the subject of marriage and infertility and I feel compelled to write about this today. We have had infertility for now seven years and it has been a constant companion since we found out. I prayed that it would leave our marriage, but it must have loved it so much that it stayed permanently. As much as I wanted it to go away, it just would not and will not. A good friend of ours, who happens to be a priest, told us that marriages don't fall apart because you have kids, it falls apart because you can't have kids. And as someone who has gone through it and still does, I can attest that it is true! Infertility takes so much from you and when you are married, it's now dragging two people into an abyss of darkness, despair and perpetual sadness. It does not start as your diagnosis is given, because you then have hope that things will work out once you start the...

Hello everyone, I am having my morning coffee and just wanted to pop in and give you a quick post on how my motherhood journey began. Yes, it all started in my Senior year in High School. We had the typical essay to write:"Where do you see yourself in ten years?" And at the time, I wrote that I wanted to be a wife and a mom and that if I was not married or could not have children, that I would want to adopt...yup, I wrote to adopt. So, let's fast forward to when I was in Law School and I was not married or had any prospects...but that urge to be a mother was so present and was such a longing. I had a colleague back then who confided in me that she has a strange dream about me the night before. She dreamt that I had a child of another race than mine and that she was beautiful... Fast forward again to now and I do have a beautiful daughter that is of mixed race that we were blessed to adopt and she is the love of my life. As the process of adoption began, and no worri...

Hello, It's Monday and it's a typical Monday. It's raining and windy, but I am trying to be optimistic and reminding myself that somewhere else, it's sunny and beautiful...and eventually, that nice weather will come here!! Have started this blog several times, but I was not writing about something that brought out my creative "juices" - whatever that means...and so, I am attempting to start up again. My blog is simply about how I became a mother. Boring? well, like many of women out there, I am that one out of eight that is infertile and I was blessed with children through adoption. Getting there was quite the roller coaster and I often felt alone. This blog will hopefully touch someone who went through the same thing, knows someone who is or has just been told they are infertile. If the latter is your case, I am sorry. I know your pain and frustration. So, let's start the conversation and just give support to each other, wherever we are in our mother...